Community and Support

A gentle, practical guide to sharing your results and seeking support.

You don’t have to share your score with anyone. Sharing is optional—and it should feel safe, not pressured.

This page offers a few simple ways to choose who to talk to, what to share, and how to support others without taking on everything yourself.

Why community matters for self-esteem

Connection

Self-esteem does not exist in a vacuum. How you see yourself is shaped by families, friends, workplaces, culture, and the communities you move through.

Supportive spaces can make it easier to challenge harsh self-talk, notice your strengths, and feel less alone with difficult feelings.

At the same time, not every space is safe or understanding. It is okay to be selective about where, when, and with whom you share your results.

Sharing your results safely

Guidelines

Choose who really feels safe

Consider sharing only with people who tend to listen, respect boundaries, and avoid quick judgments. You never owe anyone access to your score.

Share context, not just a number

If you show your score, you can also share what was happening in your life when you took the test and what kind of support you are hoping for.

Decide what is private

It is okay to keep specific answers, personal stories, or parts of your history private. Protecting your boundaries is part of caring for your self-esteem.

Supporting others responsibly

For helpers

Listen before giving advice

If someone shares their results with you, start by listening and asking what they need right now instead of jumping straight to solutions.

Avoid minimizing or exaggerating

Comments like "it is not that bad" or "this score is terrible" can make shame louder. Focus on curiosity, respect, and concrete ways to be supportive.

Know when to encourage professional help

If you notice strong distress, hopelessness, or talk about self-harm, gently encourage the person to reach out to a qualified mental health professional or local crisis services. You do not have to handle everything alone.

Next steps

If you want, here are a few helpful places to go from here.